Questions for co-parents
Most conversations between parents are logistics: pickups, lunches, who's doing bath time. These are for the rest of it. What made you laugh about them this week, what the hard part was, what you hope they remember about this year.
Written for parents raising kids together, under one roof or two. "Them" is your kids throughout.
Noticing
- 1What made you laugh about them this week?
- 2What's something new they've started doing that nobody warned us about?
- 3What did they say recently that you're still thinking about?
The hard parts
- 4What's the hardest part of this week for you?
- 5Which part of the routine wears you down most?
- 6What do you need help with that you haven't asked for?
The team
- 7What's something I do with them that you're glad about?
- 8Where do we disagree about raising them?
- 9What's a decision we should make together soon?
Their world
- 10Who's their favourite person outside the family, and why?
- 11What do you think a normal day feels like from their side?
- 12What are they scared of right now?
The future
- 13What do you hope they remember about this year?
- 14What kind of adult do you hope they become?
- 15What do you want them to be able to do by themselves in a year?
One of these, every morning, for the two of you
Stitch sends you and your person the same question each day. You each answer on your own, and neither of you sees the other's answer until you've both written yours. Then you see them side by side. It takes about a minute.
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You two
- 16What did you think parenting would be like?
- 17What's surprised you most about yourself as a parent?
- 18What part of your own childhood do you see repeating?
The small stuff
- 19What's the best thing they ate this week?
- 20What's currently all over the floor?
- 21What's a toy you secretly hate?
Gratitude
- 22What are you grateful for about them today?
- 23What's something I did this week that helped?
- 24When did you last feel supported by me?
How we're doing
- 25What have we not talked about because we're tired?
- 26When did we last have a conversation that wasn't logistics?
- 27What do you need from me that isn't about the kids?
Milestones
- 28What's the last big first they had?
- 29What do you remember about the day they arrived?
- 30What's a moment you didn't expect to be emotional about?
How to get honest answers
- Both of you answer.A question only one person answers is an interview.
- Answer before you hear theirs.Otherwise the second answer is mostly a reaction to the first.
- One at a time.One good question a day beats thirty in a row. The list will keep.