Questions to ask your girlfriend
The best questions are specific enough to have a real answer and open enough to go somewhere. These are that: a mix of light, sweet and honest, written for couples who'd like to keep learning about each other.
Ask one, then answer it yourself too. A question you both answer is a conversation. A question only one of you answers is an interview.
Noticing
- 1What's a look I give you that you can read instantly?
- 2When did you last feel taken care of by me?
- 3What's something I'm better at than I think I am?
Origin
- 4What did I do early on that you thought was a red flag and wasn't?
- 5What's the bravest thing either of us did to get here?
- 6What's a place from our first year you'd like to go back to?
Appreciation
- 7When did I last make you laugh properly?
- 8What's something I've given up for us that you noticed?
- 9What do you trust me with completely?
Honesty
- 10What's a fear you have about your own future?
- 11What's the hardest thing about being close to someone?
- 12What are you not saying because you don't want to start something?
Future
- 13Who do you want us to be closer to a year from now?
- 14What does a good retirement look like to you?
- 15What would you do with a free, unbooked month together?
One of these, every morning, for the two of you
Stitch sends you and your person the same question each day. You each answer on your own, and neither of you sees the other's answer until you've both written yours. Then you see them side by side. It takes about a minute.
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Play
- 16What's the worst gift I could ever give you?
- 17Which of us is right more often, and who would say otherwise?
- 18What's the dumbest thing that makes us laugh every time?
Closeness
- 19What do you miss when I'm away?
- 20What's something you'd like us to do more slowly?
- 21When do you feel most attractive?
Repair
- 22What's a repair I made that worked better than you expected?
- 23When was the last time you chose peace over being right?
- 24What's a boundary you've been meaning to set with me?
Growth
- 25What are you learning right now, in or out of work?
- 26What advice would you give yourself five years ago?
- 27What's a risk you're glad you took?
Ordinary
- 28What's a household thing we do better than most people?
- 29What would make your mornings easier?
- 30What did you put off today?
How to get honest answers
- Both of you answer.A question only one person answers is an interview.
- Answer before you hear theirs.Otherwise the second answer is mostly a reaction to the first.
- One at a time.One good question a day beats thirty in a row. The list will keep.