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Questions to ask your boyfriend

If "what are you thinking about?" gets you "nothing", try something more specific. These are questions with a real answer: small, concrete, and easy to say yes to, which is exactly why they open things up.

No trick questions, no quizzes to pass. Just better material than "how was work". And they're better answered both ways: ask him, then answer it yourself.

Origin

1What did you believe about love before us that you've changed your mind about?
2If you could watch one hour of our early days again, which hour?
3What almost stopped us from happening?
4What did you notice about me before we ever spoke properly?
5What song belongs to the beginning of us?
6What's a meal from early on you can still taste?
7When did you first feel safe with me?

Appreciation

8What's the kindest thing I've ever done for someone who wasn't you?
9What part of my personality do you defend to other people?
10What's something you've learned from me without me trying to teach it?
11When have I surprised you by being stronger than you expected?
12What's a thing I worry about that you think I handle well?
13What do you want me to hear more often?
14What's a compliment about me you've never said out loud?

Future

15What's a version of our life you daydream about?
16What's a trip you want to take with me that we've never discussed?
17What's something you want to learn, and would I be any help?
18What do you want more of in the next six months?
19What's one thing we should stop putting off?
20What would you change about how we spend our weekends?
21What's a tradition you'd like us to start?

Honesty

22What's something you pretend not to mind?
23When have you felt unseen lately?

One of these, every morning, for the two of you

Stitch sends you and your person the same question each day. You each answer on your own, and neither of you sees the other's answer until you've both written yours. Then you see them side by side. It takes about a minute.

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Closeness

24How do you know when I need you near?
25What's a way I could make you feel more adored this week?

Repair

26What makes it easier for you to say sorry?
27What did your family teach you about conflict?

Growth

28What part of your childhood still runs the show sometimes?
29What's a habit you'd like to break, honestly?

Ordinary

30What's your favourite room where you are, and why?

How to get honest answers

Both of you answer.A question only one person answers is an interview.
Answer before you hear theirs.Otherwise the second answer is mostly a reaction to the first.
One at a time.One good question a day beats thirty in a row. The list will keep.